The reality show couple abruptly broke up earlier this week, a situation that Unglert says was for the best.
Dean Unglert is seeking professional help after his abrupt breakup with fellow Bachelor In Paradise alum Lesley Murphy.
"I sought out therapy. I'm going to start going to therapy this week," he said on his podcast, Help! I Suck At Dating with Dean Unglert, on Tuesday.
Unglert talked about the breakup, taking care not to go too deep into details about what happened between the two. The two developed a remarkable bond on the show that continued even after the season ended.
And then, on Saturday, the couple broke up.
"Lesley and I decided to part ways and I don't really want to talk too much about it to be perfectly honest with you guys. I want to respect her privacy," he said. "I will say that the last four or five days have been incredibly challenging."
He said that he always pictured the perfect love one in which another person wholly accepts and loves you -- a situation he said he was in, which made the breakup so difficult.
"I know that Lesley did feel that way about me... I know that she did love me," he said. "That's the one thing that I wanted and it still didn't end up working out."
Unglert delved deep into self-analysis, at times blaming himself for the breakup and alluding to personal problems that he recognizes he needs to address.
"As I'm getting older, I'm starting to realize love takes a lot of work and it takes a lot of time and a lot of compromise and a lot of effort on both sides," he said.
He went on, "I don't really think I've ever had a strong example of a good relationship my entire life. My parents didn't really like each other when I was growing up."
He said he's going through guilt, remorse, anxiety and depression, but trying to work through some alone time, meditation, and introspection.
"Once you recognize a fault, if you don't take action to make it better, that's the worst thing that you can do," he said, later alluding to "my issues, my insecurities, my incredible fears of abandonment, and needing to be -- belong somewhere."
As for Murphy, he had only positive things to say about her.
"Leslie was an incredible girlfriend and I know that one day she'll be an incredible wife, a wonderful mother, she's a great aunt to her two nephews," he said. "She's a great girl."
For Unglert and Murphy during better times, watch the video below.
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